Buhlebenkosi Nkomo
Ukuthi “abantwana bayalotsholwa” yinkulumo evamileyo esintwini. Inkulumo le yayichaza injongo yomtshado, ukuzala abantwana lokukhulisa isibongo salowo mndeni.
Ngokwesintu, ilobolo ngumkhuba wokwakha ubudlelwano phakathi kwemindeni emibili, kodwa futhi yayiyisivumelwano esingaphelelanga ngaphandle kokuzalwa kwabantwana. Lokhu yikho okwadala inkulumo yokuthi kulotsholwa abantwana: umtshado wawugcwaliseka ngokupheleleyo kuphela nxa sekuzelwe abantwana.
Kwakulotsholwa abantwana sokutheni?
Okokuqala, abantwana babeyisisekelo sokukhula kwesibongo. Abantwana babonakala njengabantu abazagcina igama lomndeni, amasiko, kanye lelifa. Ngakho ilobolo lalihambisana lokuqinisekisa ukuthi umuzi uyama, hayi ngokwemali kuphela kodwa langenzalo.
Okwesibili, abantwana babeyisibonakaliso sokuqina kobudlelwano. Kwakusitsho ukuthi ubudlelwano phakathi kwemindeni yomibili buqinile.
Okwesithathu, ukulobola abantwana kwakuyindlela yokubonga. Ilobolo yisibongo ebazalini bentombi ngokuyikhulisa, kodwa ukubaluleka kwakhona kwakugcwaliswa kuphela lapho indodakazi isizele, kusitsho ukuthi umsebenzi wayo wokwakha umndeni usuqalile.
Kwesinye isikhathi, nxa ilobolo lingakakhitshwa ngokopheleleyo, ukuzalwa komntwana kwakuba yisikhumbuzo kumkhwenyana ukuthi aqedelele isivumelwano lesi. Lokhu kwakungakhuthazi ukukhipha kuphela, kodwa kwakugcizelela ukuthi umtshado wawungumsebenzi oqhubekayo, ongapheli ngemali kuphela.
Lanxa kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi kulezi zikhathi zanamuhla, ingcazelo yalelisiko seyaguquka. Abanye sebegxila kakhulu emalini, okuphambanisa umsuka wesintu. Lokhu sekudala imibuzo mayelana lokuthi amasiko ayagcinwa yini ngendlela efaneleyo, kumbe asetshenziswa ngendlela engahambelani lomqondo wawo wakuqala.
Ngakho-ke, ukulotsholwa kwabantwana kufanele kuzwisiswe njengendlela yokwakha impilo yomndeni, ukuqinisekisa ukuzalana, kanye lokuqhuba amasiko.
